Over the years I have heard so many insensitive comments made to people who have weight issues. Those said to me personally and the response I wish I had made instead of getting my feelings hurt are:
1 - From a super skinny former co-worker - "I am so fat. I can't believe I have let myself get this big."
"Me either; apparently you lack brain to mouth coordination which is why have so little self-confidence that you have to say insensitive things to others to feel better about yourself."
2 - "I would like you much better if you were skinny."
"If you don't like me at this size I doubt you would like me if I were skinny. I'm still the same person."
3 - "Oh you look so cute. When are you due?"
"Thank you, 31 years ago. The part that makes me feel great is that you think I look young enough to be in my child bearing years; the part that make me feel like crap is that you think I am so fat that I look pregnant."
And my all time favorite - -
4 - "You are too fat to date."
"And you are too ignorant to take up any more of my time - your loss."
The lesson is whatever you say to someone makes a difference. You can create a positive feeling or you can hurt someone very deeply. Our words have consequences. I have two wonderful young women at work who every day say to me and each other, "You look so nice today; or Wow, you are having a really good hair day; or I think that outfit makes you look thinner." I can't tell you how many days those simple phrases have made me smile and believe that maybe I don't look as bad as I think. We are our own worse critics; we see the imperfections others don't. We all need to remember that in God's eyes we are all perfect because we have been made in His image.
And the journey continues . . .
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